Don’t be a flat squirrel!

When I came across this month’s quote, I chuckled because it was very visual to me. But then I started to think about people that I see in my coaching practice who don’t know which way to go in their lives. They are stuck…unable to move forward. They know they want to do something, but because they aren’t sure what, or they are afraid, they do nothing. I have been there myself and I’m sure many of you have been there. It can happen at any age, even with us Baby Boomers and woman over 50!

What does it mean to be “stuck”? The word “stuck” refers to the psychological or emotional energy we have trapped through a judgment we’ve made about a certain thing we fear to do or a decision we can’t make. The emotional toll it takes on us when we are frozen in this position is often just as anxiety producing as doing what we fear. In order to move ahead and release the trapped energy, sometimes we just have to take action. Remember, everybody gets stuck from time to time. Would you rather have this feeling of being stuck…or the results?

Psychologist Paula Becker said

“Being stuck is a strong signal you’re not in touch with your heart.”

  • What is your intuition telling you about this situation?
  • What excuses are you allowing to get in your way?
  • What opportunities are you missing out on by staying stuck?
  • Take full responsibility for what you’re feeling and where you are.
  • Ask, without beating yourself up, what did you do to create this?

When you empower yourself to find out what fears are keeping you stuck, you can move beyond them and be at your peak potential. Many of our obstacles are self-imposed.

  • What assumptions are you making about the situation that’s keeping you stuck?
  • Can you drop those assumptions you find to be untrue?
  • What do you notice from this new perspective?
  • How is this stuck state similar to previous times you’ve been stuck?
  • What patterns do you notice?
  • What can you learn from this?

I know I’ve asked you a lot of coaching questions to make you think. Sorry, that’s what I do! Here are some positive tips to help you take control of the situation that’s keeping you stuck.

Identify where you are stuck and take steps toward getting unstuck, even if it means pushing well beyond your comfort zone. Action is the only remedy for fear. Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”

Identify your biggest strengths and make sure you use those strengths. Write down your goals and dreams and declare yourself in the game! Set deadlines and set benchmarks for your progress. Visualize by beginning with the end in mind. Throughout the day frequently ask yourself: Is this activity moving me forward to achieve my most important lifetime goals? Don’t compromise when you feel strongly about something. And, realize that failures bring about success. Risk is all about trying and getting in the game. You won’t have success if you aren’t in the game!

In my coaching practice, I help people get unstuck. I offer a one-hour Complementary Consultation for new clients. Don’t end up like the flat squirrel!

Please join me at this upcoming event where I will be a vendor showcasing my life-changing nutritional products for people of all ages on Thursday May 22, 2014 @ Meesha Aesthetics: 415 Business Park Lane; Allentown, PA 18109 from 6-8pm.


“The highways of life are made up of flat squirrels who couldn’t make up their minds.” ~Unknown